The definition of Congruence: Agreement, Harmony, Compatibility.

It’s important for us to be in congruence with the experiences we want to create in our lives. But often we’re not. We may say we want to be healthy, yet choose to eat fast food. We may say we want to make friends, but then never accept any invitations to meet up with folks. We may say we support anti-bullying in our communities, but then go name calling other people we don’t understand.

We are out of congruence when we say one thing, and do another.

When we are out of congruence we are out of integrity, and we are more likely to experience struggle in our own lives because our actions are not supporting us creating the life we truly desire.

So – what do I want to create today? And, do my actions and behaviors support what I want to create today?

Big Love,
Rev. Deanna


In the new thought philosophy, there is a lot of emphasis put on the importance of positive thinking instead of negative thinking. And we all know it feels better to be in a positive frame of mind as opposed to a negative one.

But we do live in a world filled with conditions that catch our attention (like potholes on the street), and :::gasp::: some of these conditions may cause a negative thought to cross your mind (dang potholes – I gotta be careful). Some negative thoughts may even come to you from other people (did you see all those potholes? They are terrible!). 

But that negative thought does not matter – it, alone, will not spin your life out of control, and you won’t “attract” a bunch of bad stuff cuz of that one negative thought.

Because it’s not about the negative thought…. it’s about your “thoughts” about that negative thought.

Your thoughts about that negative thought are what cause all the mischief in your mind that can lead to a crisis in negative thinking.

We can have a negative thought, and choose not to entertain it (mischief managed), just like you may see a pothole and choose to just drive around it, and not worry about it the rest of the day. 

It’s when we start getting indignant and dwelling on those negative thoughts that the quality of our life can become affected; worrying about the potholes you know about, and having anxiety about the ones you may not know about; fearing you may get swallowed up in one, and being indignant that they exist in the first place.

If you have a negative thought, you can just observe it without getting indignant or dwelling on it. Noticing that negative thought and then choosing not to entertain it can actually strengthen our mental positivity muscles

The stronger our positivity muscles are, the greater our resilience, and the more open we become to inspired guidance and action. 

Big, Big, Love,

However, it often feels like it.

But the cold, hard fact is that sometimes we have to accept things that cannot be changed, and there are many things we do not have the power to change.

For example:

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This used to be hard for me. It felt like I was working really hard, and yet not getting to where I wanted to be as fast as my peers were. And in some cases, I was much better at doing what I did than they were! Yet they were still getting the attention and accolades.

I felt sullen and envious every time they celebrated a success.

I finally realized that this was very poor energy management on my part, and that I would never experience my own success while I was busy channeling all that sullenness and envy!

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I’ve had to face rejection so many times, I’ve lost count.

I’ve watched people attending my talks cross their arms, and roll their eyes at me.

I even recently met someone I believed was a potential student tell me they wished their previous teacher would teach the class I’m teaching – they just loved him so much, and did I know how he was doing? Did I know if he’d be back?

And I used to respond to these situations by trying to become a little different – more like a person who those people wouldn’t reject.


“Thank You Universe for the good that’s on ITS way!”

One of the most powerful tenants of the New Thought metaphysics philosophy is the importance of having faith that our good is on its way, even when the appearance of that good is absent from our physical life.

Sometimes it can be hard to believe that something good is on its way, especially if we are experiencing something really difficult.

If we are in pain, it can be hard to imagine that wholeness is already ours.

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Back in 2007, I asked the angels for a “sign;” Should we move or should we stay?
Well, actually I wanted to move. I was stressed, and our house needed so much work, and the bathroom had this mold in it :::yuck:::. And then my husband mentioned that he’d seen a house for rent that “looked like an enchanted cottage.” Of course I HAD to go look at it. And of course I took my kids who were 10 and 8 at the time. We fell in love with it.
So I found myself in a quandary; should we move or not?
I wanted to move because I wanted to run away from the stress that was in my life at that time.
So I asked the angels “should we move or stay?” And I decided that if I saw a “444” anywhere, it meant that we should move. So I got in my car, and I drove around town, staring down every license plate, until FINALLY I spotted my “444.” My sign!!!
It was time to sell our home of seven years and move – the angels told me so.

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The breeze at dawn has secrets to tell you.
Don’t go back to sleep.

You must ask for what you really want.
Don’t go back to sleep.

People are going back and forth across the doorsill
where the two worlds touch.

The door is round and open.
Don’t go back to sleep.


I spent a good part of my adult life waiting; waiting for support, guidance, improvements, help, or relief. I’ve waited for my husband to read my mind, my kids to do chores I haven’t asked them to do, and my friends to call me out of the blue. I’ve waited for my sister to help me with the burden of caregiving to my mom. I’ve waited to be invited to sing, speak, and teach. I’ve waited to be appreciated, recognized, and acknowledged.

I’ve done a lot of waiting.

And I used to believe this was the way things were done.

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“When you undervalue what you do, the world will undervalue who you are.” ~ Oprah Winfrey

Often when we think about manifesting the good in our life, that includes getting to live our “calling,” and being appreciated for the work we do, and the gifts we share.

However, we may find ourselves facing a great deal of resistance when trying to share our gifts and talents! It just may seem as if no one could give a flying fig about what we have to offer!

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“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.” ~ Brené Brown

I used to have a really hard time accepting myself. I thought my gifts and talents were just wishful thinking, and I was embarrassed to actually own up to those things I was just naturally good at for fear someone would see me for the miserable failure that I was. I never felt authentic because I was constantly trying to be better, and more acceptable.

That may sound harsh, but it was how I felt, once upon a time.

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