This used to be hard for me. It felt like I was working really hard, and yet not getting to where I wanted to be as fast as my peers were. And in some cases, I was much better at doing what I did than they were! Yet they were still getting the attention and accolades.

I felt sullen and envious every time they celebrated a success.

I finally realized that this was very poor energy management on my part, and that I would never experience my own success while I was busy channeling all that sullenness and envy!

I even recently met someone I believed was a potential student tell me they wished their previous teacher would teach the class I’m teaching – they just loved him so much, and did I know how he was doing? Did I know if he’d be back?

And I used to respond to these situations by trying to become a little different – more like a person who those people wouldn’t reject.

“Thank You Universe for the good that’s on ITS way!”

One of the most powerful tenants of the New Thought metaphysics philosophy is the importance of having faith that our good is on its way, even when the appearance of that good is absent from our physical life.

Sometimes it can be hard to believe that something good is on its way, especially if we are experiencing something really difficult.

If we are in pain, it can be hard to imagine that wholeness is already ours.

The breeze at dawn has secrets to tell you.
Don’t go back to sleep.

You must ask for what you really want.
Don’t go back to sleep.

People are going back and forth across the doorsill
where the two worlds touch.

The door is round and open.
Don’t go back to sleep.

Rumi

I spent a good part of my adult life waiting; waiting for support, guidance, improvements, help, or relief. I’ve waited for my husband to read my mind, my kids to do chores I haven’t asked them to do, and my friends to call me out of the blue. I’ve waited for my sister to help me with the burden of caregiving to my mom. I’ve waited to be invited to sing, speak, and teach. I’ve waited to be appreciated, recognized, and acknowledged.

I’ve done a lot of waiting.

And I used to believe this was the way things were done.

“When you undervalue what you do, the world will undervalue who you are.” ~ Oprah Winfrey

Often when we think about manifesting the good in our life, that includes getting to live our “calling,” and being appreciated for the work we do, and the gifts we share.

However, we may find ourselves facing a great deal of resistance when trying to share our gifts and talents! It just may seem as if no one could give a flying fig about what we have to offer!

“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.” ~ Brené Brown

I used to have a really hard time accepting myself. I thought my gifts and talents were just wishful thinking, and I was embarrassed to actually own up to those things I was just naturally good at for fear someone would see me for the miserable failure that I was. I never felt authentic because I was constantly trying to be better, and more acceptable.

“God gives some more than others because some accept more than others.” ~ Ernest Holmes

Oh boy! This used to be a really hard one for me to understand, because I thought being a good person, being a “spiritual” person, meant waiting for the Universe to just give me what I needed (or wanted). A good person doesn’t ask for things, right? Because that would be selfish.

Meanwhile, I’d see people around me accomplishing what I SOOOO wanted to accomplish! I couldn’t understand why the Universe would give to them, and not to me.

Why would It make things happen for one person, and not another?

Then one day my husband and I took our kids to this restaurant that is just a giant smorgasbord (you pick out your own food – as much as you want, whatever you want).

From the moment I taught my first class on metaphysics, I was determined to help anyone who crossed my path. Even if it meant cornering them at a dinner party, I was going to be of service, and cause transformation, whether they wanted it or not.

Then one day, as I had my next victim, I mean student, lined up in my sights, I noticed that she kept backing away from me, even as I kept stepping forward into her space, giving her my unsolicited, yet life-changing advice. I saw her eyes darting around trying to catch the attention of absolutely anyone who might rescue her from me, when I realized that I’d become that new age know-it-all that everyone avoided; I was the Fixer.

The Fixer is determined to be of service because they themselves need appreciation and accolades. The Fixer is not as far along on their spiritual path as they’d like everyone to believe, and helping others, and getting to feel good about it, make up for the good feelings that genuine transformation would bring.